Life In a Notebook

There will probably be a lot of fingers pointed at me for my set of perspectives and opinions regarding this topic, I may be right or wrong but whatever I’ll write is based on my  observation and understanding, also it’s my blog  so you can’t do anything about it either even if you disagree ( evil laughter)
Edit : I’m adding this line after I have completed writing this blog, it’s a tad bit longer than the last 3-4 ones I have written so please be patient ❤

When I mention the word “relationship” it’s the mixture of the connection one makes in their lifetime,but I think the main relationships that matter are what you share with your family, friends, “someone special” and yourself.
When it comes to family, your own blood, things are pretty different because you haven’t chosen them. You mold yourself into the values that you are taught, and they stay with you. Family is a funny thing, you argue, you fight, you cry about things that happen at home and then on the other hand , you smile , laugh ,miss and are at ease when you’re at home ! They are your rock.

The second relationship, the one with your friends. I used to think that the people we surround ourselves with are what defines us, but later i realised it’s so much deeper than that. That one friend or friend group can actually save your life. Their thoughts, suggestions,presence is something very underrated , your chosen family.

The third relationship, with that one person .
Uhm, to state facts.. this particular relationship is a make it or break it. This person is both your best friend and your family combined.  I think of this relationship as the most mysterious .. how the stars align so that you meet this Person (dramatic, but I’m a cheesy person hehe)
I mean what wonders and what courage it takes to trust someone so explicitly, now most of you will say we do the same with our friends as well, true. But this is different..a different feeling.. your whole life revolves around this person, it’s so beautiful to have found the one.

Last, the one you have with yourself. After all, it’s you with you till the end of the time , a relationship so valuable, that other relationships depend on this one.

It’s a damn privilege, I’m telling you.. it’s a privilege to have these in your life.But what’s this blog about if i don’t turn up to the reality of life! How beautiful and soothing it is to have everything in life, but not everything is easy .. the mentioned above is not at all easy.

When it comes to family,not everyone has this relationship with their parents and siblings which  is completely okay and understandable .Not everyone can resonate with their family’s thoughts and ideologies and the fact that you have grown up in that household where some inappropriate things are normalised , you tend to mold yourself into thinking that they are okay and normal, when in reality they’re not and this is where things are critical.
Sadly, some naive souls can’t escape this and some are damn stupid to realise but  then there are others who try to break this cycle of thoughts that they don’t think they’ll be able to adjust with, such brave souls. Standing up for yourselves, I’m proud of you!

Similarly, friendship. Sometimes we are literally friends with the wrong slot, the bullies, the wannabe cools, the immature and the list goes on.. oh boy  l’ve had the same experience as a teenager( well, sometimes even now ..) but thankgod, I had the courage to get out of most of them and I’m grateful for it.
In today’s world, finding a true friend is tough, sometimes we meet someone and think this is it,but when you see their true face later .. whether it is something that they do, they believe in or make you do what you know is morally wrong, pack up your bags and leave.

Now about your relationship, I can’t emphasize enough on how to make each other feel loved ,respected and cared for no matter how hard the situation is. I think the simple act of being present and listening to your partner is what does the trick( as a matter of fact to any human being, a bare minimum) In this relationship we are at our most vulnerable, a side sometimes we only keep to ourselves, don’t exploit someone else’s feelings for the sake of justifying any personal Triumph. The same goes during fights and arguments. There will be days where you will be annoyed, take a moment, a deep breath and start resolving not accusing.

I’ve learnt and I can agree on one thing, a relationship can go on without love, not without respect. Mark my words, keep a check on your words.

Any hard situation is against the two of you, not the two of you against each other.
Everyone wants a forever, but sadly only a few work for it. Let love flow in, even during the darkest nights ;keep appreciating , simping, motivating and helping each other.

Lastly, You and only you have the power .. a sense of strength that can get you over anything. Fill your cup and then pour into another cup, remember this. Nobody, in all these relationships is the sole purpose of your happiness. It’s going to be you only. And it’s the most important thing in the entire world. You being whole. Remember that.

Love and only love.